Growing up an only child definitely had its positives . . . all the attention was on me; I didn’t get into senseless arguments with a sibling about what was mine, and I didn’t have to share my parents’ love. At the time, I did feel a lot of (self-imposed) pressure to make the best grades, be well-behaved, and excel at sports. Looking back I realize that most of those pressures were the result of my perfectionist personality and not Mom and Dad’s unrealistic expectations. I was well loved. In fact, the three of us would wrap our arms around each other and enjoy a “family join.”
I am grateful to my parents because they intentionally created a warm, loving home. I was told daily that they loved me. They still tell me (not necessarily daily) but often. It still feels good to hear them say they are proud of me. I love to see my parents interact with my boys. They are “messed up” over them and have been since the day each of them were born. Despite Ashton’s avoidance of hugs, they make a game of it and end up wrestling him into a hug. Palmer doesn’t object to hugs and kisses (yet) so they get their fill. I just roll my eyes when the boys raid my parents’ restaurant. If we had to pay for all they ate while at the Frog, our bill would easily exceed $50 each time. My parents say they are allowed to spoil their grandsons if they want! Can’t argue that.
I am envious of my boys in that they have two sets of involved, loving grandparents. When they grow up, they will take many many memories of their grandparents’ with them. My in-laws are also a very important part of my family. They truly treat me like a daughter. They, too, shower me in love and encouragement. Many times over the years they’ve been there to help when I suffered from migraines and helped out with the kids. I love it that they send funny emails to the boys and hand-written letters to tell them how much they are loved. A piece of gum or a 5 dollar bill is always included. The permanent smiles on their faces show how much they enjoy spending time with their grandsons.
Family is extremely important to me. Jeff and I have a loving relationship. We make a point of going on date nights so we can maintain a strong marriage. Our boys are simply incredible. We intentionally spend time as a family, creating memories and enjoying each other. They are growing up too fast and I want to enjoy every minute of it!
In these times of uncertainty, I feel it is imperative to look for the good all around us. It’s there. I don’t have to look far to see the good in my life. My family – my husband and boys, my parents and my in-laws are incredible blessings to me.
Share with me the thing(s) you are thankful for. I want to rejoice with you as we remember the good things instead of focusing on all that’s wrong in the world and in our lives!
