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“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” 

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

When all you see is darkness in your life, have you paused to search for the stars? I assure you they are there. Those glimmers of hope. Those reminders that God is for you. Those bright specks, urging you to trust your journey. Focus on those until the darkness subsides.

It has been my honor to interview more than one hundred courageous women who have faced life’s toughest struggles and when it came time to decide between living in defeat or fighting to overcome, they chose to fight.

It wasn’t always easy. In fact, some experienced setbacks. But they looked for the good all around them as they continued to fight to overcome their challenges.

You see, overcomers look for the stars during the dark times in their lives. They eagerly share the life lessons they’ve learned along the way in the hopes that others who face struggles will use those lessons in their fight to overcome.

May you draw from the strength and wisdom of the overcomers I’ve interviewed and find inspiration as you read their amazing stories.

Looped Like a Cassette Tape

Looped Like a Cassette Tape

When the majority of couples say I do, their intentions are to stick together for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. Divorce is the last thing on their minds when they seal their

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  • Wonderful story with such powerful encouraging words!

  • She tried hard to keep them together. It goes to show you that it takes both partners to make a marriage work. Each giving 100%. I’m glad she replaced all this sadness with putting God in her life.

  • You are a brave woman, Jenna! I am SO PROUD of you!

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Switch On Your Brain

Switch On Your Brain

In another life, I might have been a neuropsychologist as I am utterly fascinated with the brain and how it works. Dr. Caroline Leaf, a leader in the field of cognitive neuroscience, has spent her career studying the brain

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  • So glad you are doing well now, Melony. Paul and I were praying for you. You are definitely an overcomer and a dynamic inspiration to all of us. I love reading books too, so after reading your blog, I just had to order Caroline Leaf’s book. I can hardly wait to read it! The Bible is the book we should all go to first, but other books like Caroline’s can greatly add to the answers we are all searching to find.

    • The best part of Dr. Leaf’s book is how she integrates Scripture into what she knows about the brain. Pruning the toxic thoughts in our minds is incorporating John 15 into our lives. Then, she recommends living out Romans 12:1-2 to renew our minds with His words.

      I love how she takes brain research and shows how scientists are beginning to see the link between what goes on in our brains and the God that created them. “Scientists are discovering precise pathways by which changes in human thinking operate as signals that activate genetic expression, which then produce changes in our brains and bodies. Our genetic makeup fluctuates by the minute based on what we are thinking and choosing. Clearly, then, following the advice of Philippians 4:8 will have a profound healing and regenerative impact on our bodies and minds,” she writes.

      I’d love for you to post your thoughts on her book after you’ve had a chance to read it. Thanks, Kay!

  • Absolutely an amazing review as I know so many who struggle with the negative. And as our world becomes increasingly more threatening I think even the normal optimist has struggled with our global uncertainty. Deliberate, active steps become a critical component of maintaining our peace and joy. Thanks Mel for sharing.

    • I agree with you, Amy, about the toxic information we digest daily by reading or listening to the news. It can easily make us have and believe a doomsday mindset. Limiting the news I intake has helped me not take in and then ruminate on all the destructive situations happening in our world today.

  • I just ordered the book, and can’t wait to read it. We all need positive ways to cope with the world that at times seems to have such negativity. Thanks for sharing, hope 2016 is a wonderful year.
    god bless,
    Angie

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Chasing My Dr. House

Chasing My Dr. House

The phone call regarding her dad being transported to the hospital with chest pains happened a few hours after the headache that started Cara* down a path she’s still on today – 8 years later. Thankfully, her dad recovered from

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4 Responses to Chasing My Dr. House

  • Cara – I relate to your story. I too have chronic pain. Like you, I made a choice to lean on God’s grace to complete His purpose for my life. I’m so glad that you have set boundaries and margin for your day. You are an overcomer – thanks for sharing your story!

  • Cara,

    Philippians 4:6-7 – Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

    Wow, what strength, and trust, and your overall optimistic view on life speaks volumes about you.
    During our darkest days, we tend to give up or throw in the towel, and turn away from our faith.
    I’m so touched by your ability to push through and still see God as your savior. You are the true definition of an OVERCOMER. I’m so glad you shared your story, and I wish you continued strength. I pray your pain or what ever God’s plan is for you continues to give you the courage to make the journey.
    God Bless,
    Angie Thomsen
    Overcomer

  • I hope that you can get relief from such intense pain. It is amazing that you have chosen to not let this completely limit your life. Hopefully more research in this area will bring an answer. God bless you. Glenda

  • This is an amazing story of enduring faith. I cannot imagine living with severe head pain for any length of time, let alone eight years.

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Overcomer’s Playlist

Overcomer’s Playlist

 

My husband Jeff

My husband Jeff

It may be because my husband is a musician, but music speaks to me. I do not have any musical talent myself – I truly wish I did! But several have caught me singing at the

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  • Thanks for sharing Melony!

    Blessings,

    Paul
    aka The Mayor

  • Music plays a great part of my writing and journaling. A lot of times I use my oil lamp when writing at the apartment.

    I use my fountain pen when I write and when finished I either type it into my computer and a lot of times use Dragon Naturally Speaking, which I love, hope to get new version for Christmas. Been using it for about 7 years.

    Again, thanks for sharing,

    Paul
    aka, The Mayor
    ☕?

  • Great article on the overcomer’s playlist! So few writers write about the impact of music to your spirit. Music speaks to me like scripture passages. There are songs you have introduced to me that I would not have been exposed to if it wasn’t for you. I hear the songs on the Fish all the time. I never would have known David Crowder. Your blog is so inspirational. I love reading it.

  • The songs chosen were ministry to soul! May God bless your journey on this mission!

  • Thank you, Melony! Somehow music eases our souls and opens our hearts. This music makes my heart sing!

  • So true, Melony music Seems to
    Be what helps you over come, Or remind
    You of what you have overcome.
    love your music play list you shared.

    don’t worry my friend I’ll be the car next to you singing
    As well, because it’s the only place I feel comfortable singing at
    Alone in my car. .
    grateful for the hymns.
    Angie

  • The world is blessed with many fine musical artists. May you continue to let us enjoy your music for many years to come.

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Broken but Priceless

Broken but Priceless

Many of us face a health struggle at some point in our lives. Uncomfortable and inconvenient as it may be, it generally has a short duration. One hundred thirty-three million Americans wish for a health struggle with a short duration.

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  • Erin is a beautiful young woman, inside and out. I’m thrilled to see how God uses her to reach out to others who are struggling with chronic illness. She’s right, we can’t begin to understand the moment-to-moment struggle, but this post certainly helped me see it in a new light. Thank you, Erin, for your honesty, and thank you, Melony, for sharing Erin’s story!

  • I am very sure that this story will encourage someone today! sometimes we think we have it hard, or we have major obstacles, then we have a clarifying moment, understanding what others have going on

  • Wow… some big overcoming for Erin. Having several auto immune diseases myself.
    It’s hard enough trying learn and research and going from doctor to doctor in hope for a answer
    Or a miracle. Then add on a very difficult child trama. It’s amazing to me that Erin was about to find her way back to her faith and overcoming some of the hardest challenges.
    Thanks for sharing your story.
    wishing you good health and hope you our filled with peace and comfort.
    bless you,
    Angie

  • wow-the spoon analogy was great. I am no where close to where Erin is in her health struggles. But the spoon thing really hit me. I have neurological issues that are not evident to most people. People just assume that I am clumsy and gawky, uncoordinated. They shake their heads and say “That’s just Shannon”. Which is true. But I really do not like being known for being the clumsy one. Its very frustrating for me. I really do want my body to cooperate. I have to work twice as hard, pay twice as much attention. Its tiring sometimes. And people-most people anyway-don’t get it. I have SO OFTEN wanted to put two different size shoes on my husband and have him go trail run 5k…and then wonder why I fall down. (not that he does not respect what I am trying to do…more to have someone ‘normal’ understand.) I am SO GLAD to hear the Erin has found some resolution and healing and is off most of her medications. She is beautiful and to look at her you would not think there was a thing wrong w her. That is probably frustrating to her as well. I have always maintained that our health is one of the biggest things we take for granted.

  • Beautiful story Melony!!

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Where the Souls Go

Where the Souls Go

Ann Hite’s* third novel, Where the Souls Go, continues the Pritchard family saga in the Black Mountain series. Annie Todd, Grace Jean’s daughter, is added to the multi-layered mix of a dysfunctional family in the North Carolina mountains.

“Annie

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  • Congratulations to Ann. She took the harsh and hurtful stones that were piled upon her in her formative years and instead of being weighed down by them forever, she used them to lay a foundation upon which she could get a firm footing and literally reach for the stars.

  • Ann had a lot of personal strength to work this out on her own. So glad there is help for bipolar now.

  • Ann’s story is amazing.
    She proves that you can have
    what seems like the world against you,
    But still rise up and overcome. Her ability to
    rise above and build her strength has me speechless
    I can relate to Ann on so many levels and can honestly
    Say.. I understand… my heart is full of
    wow, sorrow, and compassion for her.
    Ann you are inspiring and your story is so many
    Things and I’m so grateful you are sharing it.
    God bless you,
    In loving arms,
    Angie Thomsen

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You’ll Get Through This

You’ll Get Through This

“What wisdom would you like to share?” is the most important question I ask each of the overcomers I interview. I want to, and I believe others want to, know what each woman has learned as she journeyed through her

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  • Super encouraging way to start my day Melony! This is a wonderful little book that I recommend to all. My small group did this video and study, and it was great – so comforting and encouraging as we ALL have, are, or will go through “this”. I memorized Max’s mantra and recite it to myself often. It’s just a little reminder that God is with me through any and everything. I encourage others to do the same …”you’ll get through this. It won’t be painless, it won’t be quick, but God will use this mess for good…

  • I agree with it..
    One of my favorite quotes of his is
    “God never said that the journey would be easy, but He did say that the arrival would be worthwhile.”
    – Max Lucado
    All things are possible with faith. I know for me I couldn’t of overcome anything with out him.
    thank you Melony for sharing this. It is so important that we open our heart and are eyes and share what keeps us going.
    with him all things are possible.
    blessed

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Abandoned, Part 2

Abandoned, Part 2

If you haven’t read part 1 of Angie’s story, please read it here first.

Six years after her first marriage ended, Angie met and married Mark.

Health Struggles Resurfaced

Angie’s health struggles resurfaced when she became pregnant with their

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  • Angie I love you. I say this to others…you amaze me..you are so very generous. So giving. So very beautiful and lovely. I’m overwhelmed.

    • Lisa, well now I’m speechless, that’s not easy to do to me..lol
      your compliments are so sweet, and I don’t see myself that way at all.
      I’m so grateful, and blessed to have such great friends, that can see the good in others,
      and ignore my irritability and exhaustion, and all my insecurities.
      Thank you for being a dear friend, and standing with me, when at times, I felt like I couldn’t.
      beyond grateful.
      xoxo
      thank you,

  • I hope I was able to be encouraging to you, Angie, to do what you needed to do to take care of your Mom even though it was so rough. I knew with your compassionate heart you wouldn’t regret it. Your Dad would be so proud that you showed her forgiveness and kindness even though it wasn’t deserved. I’m glad you had him to experience unconditional love and sometimes even tough-love!

    • as you know at times, I wasn’t sure if I could make it. But with the support of you and my Dad speaking to me from above, I found my way to see my Mom in a different light. I’m grateful everyday that I was given that opportunity. Now that I’m having my own struggles, I see things much clearer and how when you don’t feel well, things are harder.
      so thank you for encouraging me, when others judged me, and for telling me to follow my heart even if other didn’t understand it or me.
      so grateful, and very blessed for your support,

  • Throughout this most difficult experience I am so proud of the true demonstration of the value you’ve shown of unconditional love of family. Our children have been positively imprinted by witnessing your strength to embrace your mother during her final years – something in which they will carry with them and pass on to their children. A lasting legacy created by you with your ability to forgive and always unselfishly do the right thing. With all my love, Mark.

  • “Faith, hope, love, but the greatest of these is love.” You are a great example of love in action. You have shown love to the unlovely which makes you a very unique and special person. My prayer for you is that you continue to have strength and courage to enjoy peace within which you so deserve.

    • Thank you Sandra,

      It didn’t come easy, but like I tell my kids, if everything was easy, what would motivate you.
      I’m grateful and shocked by all the comments and responses I have received. It is a journey I wouldn’t wish on anyone. But, I’m glad that I have love and support, of my siblings,friends and family.
      Thanks so much for taking the time to read my journey, and commenting, it means the world to me.
      Grateful and blessed

  • Its amazing that we see people everyday that look like they have it all. But we just don’t know what is going on inside. When I feel comfortable enough to share with someone that I struggle from depression they always seem surprised. As a nurse I feel that empathy is crucial in dealing with not the human body-but the human spirit. There has been nothing in my life that has changed me like being a mama. And I think that is what allows me to be able to do what I do everyday-I have such respect and empathy for the bond between a mama and her child. And I see plenty of bad bonds. Its amazing to me that Angie was able to let herself be vulnerable enough to care for her mom at the end of her life. Some may say that she was crazy to do so-but I bet that it is a decision that she never regrets. There are so many people that never seem to be able to rise above what life has dealt them-good for you Angie. Paul said the ‘greatest of these is love’ and you showed your mom that-as well as showing your children and making a great example of agape love.

  • Shannon,
    You are so right. When the hurt or sick people can physically see it seems easier to be understanding. But when it’s internal it is hard for others to truly understand what or how that feels. I struggled for years with diseases that cause depression, irritability and many more. But I hope you will find a place that you can share your struggles. You may be very surprised by how many will relate and it may even help some out. I’m so grateful for your comments and that you took the time to read mine and comment because I’m just like you. I was reluctant. But I had a wonderful friend that made me feel safe and she just happens to be a great writer. She spent many many hours with me. We even closed down a restaurant during this journey. I encourage you to find that safe comfort and faith and you will be led. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for supporting me. I’m very overwhelmed with such support. . Which is hard for a abandoned girl. Sincerely

  • Angie,
    Your strength and perseverance is an inspiration to others. I’m thankful for the opportunity to read your story!
    Shannon

    • Shannon,

      That means the world to me. I have been struggling the last few hours, about was this the right thing to day. But, the amount of support I have received has been overwhelming, like anything in life, I wanted to share my journey, not to point fingers at others, or to cast blame on any individuals in my life. I wanted to hopefully help others understand that with God all things are possible, and none of us are perfect, and we all do and hurt others. But when you can let go of your hurt, or anger, or baggage and look at the person as one of God’s children, and TRULY forgive, you receive the biggest gift you can ever get. God has joined you, and you are free from all that has happen to you at the hands of this person. My Mom had a very tough life, and lost her own mother at 15, she was abandoned herself, and she was struggling herself. I’m just glad that I was able to open my heart, which was really hard, and trust God to guide me through the last few years with her. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. Some think they have, but may not of. I struggled deeply with it. so having someone read this, and maybe they will forgive someone in their life, and it could change relationships, then is was worth it.
      Thanks for supporting me, and seeing the value in forgiveness

  • Wow! Difficult, but compelling to read. May God continue to keep you and preserve you. May He grant you the desire of your heart.

    • Carol,
      Thank you so much for reaching out to me, Your comment couldn’t of come to me at a better time. I was having a moment of, sadness, and back to feeling misunderstood. Then your reply popped up, and my heart filled with such comfort. So Thank you.

      I’m so blessed to have so many supporters, and grateful for each and every one. But with all things in life, not all is seen as we see it. I wanted to help others overcome some of the most difficulties in life, and know they are not alone.

      I’m glad you reached out, your timing was a gift to me, so I thank you
      sincerely,
      Angie

  • Angie, what an incredible journey you have been on! I’m overwhelmed with your story! Thank you for sharing it, I can’t imagine it was easy! You are a beautiful soul! Thank you for being my friend and allowing me to read your story! Incredible!

    • Thanks Tammi,
      I appreciate your support. I wanted to share my experience with others. When God places is hand on you with such strength and guides you threw your darkest hours to a road of forgiviness. You have to share.

  • My mother died in the hospital recently. She was ill for several years much like your mother did not take care of herself. Until this happened I had not really thought about my own abondoment issues for a very long time, but of course was always there in the back of my mind just did not want to think about it anymore. Exhausting stuff. I knew at a very young age I was hurting but not sure why. I displayed many of the behaviours we are now discussing and chalked it up to being a teenager. I asked my mother several times about what happened when I was 4 years old. She played it safe and was honest but downplayed the whole scenario. My mother left my father. She soon met another man, but he left to go down to the states she got a baby sitter to look after us for a week while she chased him down there. The ran into some trouble and she was unable to make it back that week but promised to be back the next. The babysitter called the CAS and they came and took us away. In those days they kept you for over 6months until youcould prove that you were capable and responsible enough to care for your children. In my mind I had been gone for 2 years. Until l pressed my mother over and over again for information. I was believing what my heart was telling me. So with this new information I was now able to put the pieces together. I was glad to know details, I was overwhelmed by my brain trying to process this influx of emotion. What was I to do now. My life is very similar to Angies life. In and out of relationships, behavioural issues in school. All of it. My mother did get us back and married Joe who became my step dad. Joe was great but uneasy around us as he did not feel comfortable with cuddles and showing effection. My mother was naturally a cold person as she said later to me ( I don’t like babies they make me uncomfortable) That said it all. My mother and Joe had two children together. One is 15 year younger than me. When I was 22 my mother announced she was leaving Joe. She was taking my sister who was 10 at the time and leaving my brother with Joe who was 14. Her we go again…more abandomnet and now it would affect this new generation. Many people do not ever realize they have this terrible metal health issue and refuse to hear any of it. My sister suffers from it and has destroyed our family in her dealing with it. I feel I am reliving my childhood all over again. Much pain, many loses. Repeating over and over again. I wish I had made better choices in my life, listened to a therapist when I had the chance. What helped me was a man that came into my life understood and was sensitive to my struggle. We did manage to have several year together as a couple but of course I sabotaged that as well. He was strong and healthy he fought for us to stay friends. I almost dropped the ball a few times but stuck with it and now am happy to say we are best friends 30 years later. This bond has been my lifeboat, my light in the darkest of days, he showed me the love I never had. I would have nothing without him. Thankyou to all those people who have reached out and stayed for the long haul.

    • Stacy,
      thank you for taking time to comment on my story, can I say, your comments blew me away,
      I think it’s the first time, I feel like someone out there actually truly understands how I feel, WOW, I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom and I know this is difficult on so many levels, and will continue to be for a while. I found the loss of my Mother had a profound effect on me, I’m still not exactly sure why, but, I struggle with sabotaging everything in my life, and lately, I have come to the the notion that I”m not capable of being loved, and it sounds silly, but, it’s just another journey that abandonment seems to take us to, I learn more and more every day, and some days are better then others, but, I hope you will share your story, and help someone else out there you may be feeling the same way. I love that you and your ex- turned in to good friends, I never thought that was possible when I was younger, but, I’ve come to realize that is just the trust issue that is always haunting me, and that you can have friends, and who better then someone who got to see the real you. I wish you the very best, and I know our abandonment, is with us for life, but, we can guide are way through the days, that is surfaces, and enjoy the days, it stays out to sea.
      grateful, and amazed that this came today, on a day that I felt like no one in this great big world understands me, or could relate to me, and then your comment was posted.
      GOD Bless,
      Angie

  • Wow! Angie, I’m truly touched by your story. It took courage to persevere through your traumatic childhood. God’s protective hands were clearly on you throughout your life. I’m so grateful you allowed your story to be told. I’m going to commit to pray for you as you continue to deal with your day to day struggles.

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Abandoned, Part 1

Abandoned, Part 1

Angie's family prior to her mother leaving

Angie’s family prior to her mother leaving

Angie* was too young to remember being abandoned by her mother, for she was only two years old.

Their father’s week and a half leave from the Air force was the

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  • Holy Moly! Such pain and damage! Our parent’s generation didn’t have the tools or support to figure out how to resolve relationship problems in a healthy manner. No excuses but we are fortunate to have so many resources at our fingertips. My heart goes out to Angie. Abandonment is the core fear of every human being.

    • Amy back then in late 60’s early 70’s no one was divorced. . No man had 5 kids to care for. I’m grateful for your kindness and showing interest in my story. My Dad was amazing man.
      He was an overcomer as well but you’ll see that in part 2..
      Sincerely grateful.

      • I love you sweet Angie and I miss you since you moved. When school settles in, you, me and Marla need to get together. Love you.

        • Sheila,
          You are such a doll. Thank you for reading and supporting my story. I enjoyed working with you wonderful ladies at church, and spending all those hours preparing for VBS.
          I’m so ready and looking forward to having lunch with you, Marla and Jan.
          Max is back in school and Grace will be next week, so I’m ready for some yummy food and a lunch filled with fellowship.
          Thanks so much for supporting me, I’m very blessed.

  • Your heart breaks for her-and her father. One has to think he was doing what he thought was best in an overwhelming situation. He ignored it and she just stayed busy- a too common way of ‘coping’. Looking forward to the rest of the story. I know that it ends well cause she is an overcomer!!!

    • Shannon, thank you for commenting and showing interest in my story. Part 2 will clarify a lot. My siblings and my father were forever changed. We are a passionate group and are continuing to overcome life after abandonment.

  • I cant wait to hear the end of this one !!!!!

  • I grew up with Angie. I know some of the stuff she went through.When we were children we were close. Its scary that a good friend can go through such heartache and you really didnt know how she really felt.I know Angies dad thought he was doing the right thing for Angie.I dont know what else to say but my heart goes out to you Angie.Love u

    • Thank you Susan I appreciate your kindness and support.
      We have been through a lot together as teens.
      Thanks for always being there.
      Greatly appreciated

  • I’ve known Angie for the past 15 years or so since our children were born and I treasure our friendship more than she can know. Angie is the LIFE OF THE PARTY, THE FRIEND to turn to when you are in need, a FEROCIOUS MOTHER BEAR to her children, the GUIDING MENTOR to my children, and THE ONE to count on. Angie is a COUNSELOR who will help you see the good in others and help you forgive the unforgivable. She is a HOT MESS who helps you feel so much better about being a hot mess yourself and for driving carpool in your pajamas on your most desperate days.

    It is amazing to me that any person could have experienced what you have, who has received so little, has so much to give to others.
    Christine

    • Those are all such accurate descriptions of Angie, Christine! I agree. Angie, you are amazing Girl! Love you!

      • Julie Lischer, you are too kind.. I love ya girl
        Thanks for your love, kindness and support.
        I’m overwhelmed with comfort from all the support this interview has received. It was not easy but I’m glad my challenges could help others.
        Thanks for always supporting me.

    • Awl… Christine how sweet are you.
      Such kindness and support..
      I’m very grateful and back at you on the
      Friendship and hot mess. I’m very blessed and I don’t take that for granted.
      I’m overwhelmed with such emotions on how much love and support I have received from this article. I was very reluctant to do it. But I’m glad I did. I feel very fortunate to have all this support.
      thank you for being one of my closest and dearest friend.
      I love you

    • 15 years, yikes.. thanks so much for making me laugh, because I needed that. now the world knows we wear PJ’s to carpool..lol. no seriously I’m lucky to have you as one of my dearest and closest friends. We have been through a lot, and I wouldn’t of wanted it any other way.
      I know I can always count on you, and I’m very grateful.
      Thanks for supporting me, not just by reading this and commenting, but for helping with my kids, and family, when I was away caring for my Mom. and for listening to me, and picking me up when I thought I couldn’t do it another day. You were the very first person I saw after I heard my Mom had passed. You came in took over all my duties, and more importantly you talked to me on the phone almost my whole car ride to Indiana. I will be forever grateful.
      I love you girl,
      I’m lucky that you are part of my life.

  • Angie, I can relate to so many elements of your life story. I was abandoned by my mother too- but through no fault of her own. As you know she died of leukemia when I was just 7. But she never left any note for me, any little trinket or photos to remember her by. I know she knew she was going to die and I often wonder why she didn’t leave me with some note to say how much she loved me. And sadly, I don’t have any real touching memories of her and I together. My dad was left with 3 children, ages 12, 7 and 2. He, too was an officer in the Army and had to deal with being in charge of his family. And a military discipline was his style like your dad! What happened was, is that he remarried to a woman within a year. My “wicked step mother” (a whole nother saga of my life!). My sister Linda became the nurturing mother in our lives. When she left for college, I remember how abandoned I felt then too. So many similarities to your story, in my opinion. Stories from our past, good and bad, need to be shared. Thanks for having the courage to share yours’. It helps those of us who have continued to bottle it up inside. Speaking of bottle, we need to share one of those too on my back patio as soon as it cools down a bit! I love you Angie! So proud of you! VA

  • Angie you are so brave to share your story. I knew bits and pieces but it breaks my heart to understand fully the level of abandonment and dysfunction you endured from such a young age. I’m so thankful you have the courage to share and be such an inspiration. What’s so incredible is that you did not even have a “mom” and yet you’re one of the best Mom’s I have ever known. I am certainly more familiar with the ending of story but look forward to part two. Love You, Julie

    • Julie Peters thanks so much for supporting me.
      You have always been there for me and Grace.
      I’m grateful for your continued support and all the times you kept Grace for me so I could care for my mom. Grateful & blessed

  • Omg… did you say patio.. I love you so much. How is it we have been buds all these years and I never knew all of that.. we ARE so similar it’s scary. I’m so glad you shared your story here. I agree it’s important for others to hear and for us to grow from it. I’m grateful for your continue support. You truly are an amazing person.
    Love you and I’m holding you to the patio invite.

  • When someone opens up their life, their soul, their hurts and their healings, it lifts us all to a better place. It probably wasn’t the easiest thing for you to do – but THANK YOU for opening yourself to Melony. xo and hugs, Kara

    • Kara, thank You for your support and words of encouragement. Abandonment is very complex and most
      People don’t truly understand it and it’s impact.
      I’m grateful that Melony is in my life and that she was brave enough to tell her story. That now has opened up a safe comfortable place for others to share their’s. We all have to overcome things in life some big some some but just as important. This was a very hard decision for me to share mine. But Melony has way of making you feel loved and safe.
      if my story can help others with abandonment or auto immune diseases to feel understood or not alone then it was worth it… grateful and at peace.. thank you

      as brave enough

  • Angie,
    I am so sorry to hear the hardship that you have endured growing up. And I know there is nothing I can say to take away the hurt and pain you endured while growing up. From that you have become an amazing person and mother.
    All my love,
    Tracy

  • I have knowN angie most of my life and these are things I never nknew. Of course I was a child when I met my mom’s best friend who was always good to me. I never knew your struggles but that has made you a wonderful mother and friend. Love you angie

    • Brandy,
      thank you so much for reading it, and taking time to comment. I remember babysitting you, and you being the flower girl in my wedding. You have turned into a beautiful young lady and Mother. now that you are a Mother yourself, you can understand how important a mother is to a young child. It was not something we discussed back in those days, and honestly even now I’m not comfortable, but, Once I realized that if I could share my journey and if one person out there is going through something like this, then just maybe I can make them feel understood.
      Your Mom was the maid of honor at both my weddings, and she was a constant supporter for me, and she took me in when I had no idea what to do with myself.
      I’m blessed and overwhelmed with gratitude for all the love and support I have received

  • Your honesty always brightens my soul…you are the example by which to live with authenticity. I love you and feel blessed to be able to share this journey called “life” with you. Xoxo Paige

    • Paige,

      You know better then anyone, life is a journey, and not always smooth. We have cried together, laughed together, and at times been overwhelmed together. Thank you for reading and supporting my journey. You lived some of it with me, and you know it wasn’t easy at times.
      but with faith, love and support, I have learned to forgive and let the next chapter begin.
      Thanks so much for supporting me and my journey. I’m very grateful and blessed.

  • Angie
    You are one of the strongest and bravest woman I know and the most kindest and funniest as well!
    I couldn’t be more proud of how you have handled this life challenge and instead of tearing you down it made you such a stronger person!
    What a role model for all of us!
    Thank you for sharing your story, love you!

    • Darlene,

      Thank you it’s funny how people see you differently then you see yourself.
      I appreciate your support and responding.
      I have had very mixed emotions about opening up my journey, I knew it was going to be hard, but, I didn’t expect the support and responses that I have received.

      Thank you so much for your kind words, and support,
      so very grateful

  • Angie,
    I’ve known you for so long and never knew all this. You are amazing! God bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing your story. Can’t wait to read the rest.
    Love ya,
    Cindy

    • Cindy,
      Thanks for reaching out to me. It’s never easy to share certain parts of your life.
      I had such a time with my relationship with my mom, and by the time she passed we were not the same 2 people from all those years before.
      I was way too young when I married your step brother, and full of abandonment traits and issues, that I didn’t even know I had until years later.
      My journey has been long, but fulfilling, and when I was able to understand myself, and how I think, react, and feel. I was able to open my heart and see my Mom in a different way.
      Thank you so much for reaching out to me. Your father, and the whole Peacher family were always so kind to me.
      I’m very touched by your support.
      Sincerely grateful,
      Angie

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Nature Walks: A Metaphor for the Journey of Life

Nature Walks: A Metaphor for the Journey of Life

One of the best perks of being a teacher is nine wonderful weeks of summer to indulge in doing whatever I please. My pleasure this summer has been long nature walks. I definitely embark on these journeys

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8 Responses to Nature Walks: A Metaphor for the Journey of Life

  • I think i recognized every one of these trails!!!

  • Great story Melony! Thank you for sharing!

  • Thank you for these beautiful thoughts friend. As I was reading, I was imagining that I was walking the same paths. The one that resonated with me was the detour. I read once that grief, which we all experience at some time, is like a detour. You’re going along, living your life, and then it happens. You’re forced to go through a period of grief. Similar to going down the road, you see a detour sign and have no choice but to take it. Then at some point, the detour meets back at the main road, but the road is different. Like grief, at some point, you come back, but your path is very different. I’m on this detour now, and oh how many new experiences I’ve had already. I’m learning things and making decisions I never imagined I’d be strong enough to make. God is good, and He’s leading me gently through the detour. I hope this encourages someone who may be going through their own time of grief.

    • Cindy, my precious friend. Thank you for sharing your heart. Even though Bob passing away was an unexpected detour on your life journey, please know you have family and many friends who love you. Call on us when you need support. Love you!

  • WOW!!!! I love this!!! I, too, can relate very well to this and my love for being out on the trails! It is so peaceful and an incredible place for reflections on my daily life. My mind is always more clear when I’m on my nature walks/runs! Thank you for your beautiful metaphor!!! 🙂

  • I love your connection of nature walks and the journey of life! I am a “Let’s go outside and play” kind of girl and always have been. I’ve also felt God’s presence as I walk through His creation. I’m reminded of His love for me and His promise that He will never leave me. And boy, do I need to remember that fact as I maneuver through some of the difficult walks of life! But as with some of the most challenging hikes I’ve taken, the view is worth it!

  • Beautiful… I love the great out doors and nature has a way of making everything seem less complicated.. loved your article and I’m glad you are getting a few weeks off to enjoy God’s creations..great read.. really enjoyed it.

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